As you move through my pages you will hear and see lots about positive affirmations, they are a major source of personal strength for me. I use them everyday to cultivate a strong and positive confidence and to help direct my life. The powerful journey that I follow, is a consistent winding pathway with many forks, and indeed some pot-holes, but I continue following my dreams knowing that my positive affirmations help me create a firm foundation to be all that I can be. Now, that doesn’t mean that I don’t get browned off when the kids don’t keep their rooms tidy and bring their washing downstairs, or when my husband leaves the contents of his pockets on my nicely polished table, of course I do, I am only human, and therefore steeped in emotion, but I am also very much aware that my reaction and thoughts create my reality. So when I focus too much on the things that bother me, you guessed it, I keep getting more of the same, so I go back to positive affirmations and concentrate on what I do want rather than what I don’t want.
Although I am a novice I recognise that positive affirmations are a way of life, we don’t stop using them when we see or experience what we are striving for, we keep on remembering what we want and share our gratitude for what we receive. That’s why I feel so strongly that positive affirmations and gratitude jounalling go hand in hand –
You know, I used to think I was poor, I’d spent all my adult life striving for more, more money, more clothes, more food, more…well more everything. Coming from a traditional British working class background, I’d been brought up to believe that whatever you wanted only came with hard work. “Nothing wrong with that,”you might think, but just think about it for a minute…Within my mind and all those around me, was a situation of lack, never enough, not enough food, not enough money to pay the bills, living hand to mouth to get through each week. My parents worked harder and harder every week, life could often be drab… Don’t get me wrong, I was loved and cared for and my parents gave me all that they could, and I am grateful for all the sacrifices they made to give my sister and I the best that they could, but from within that realm of poverty as I grew, I too developed a poverty mindset bourne out of my environment and the social deprivation I encountered during my day to day life. From the depths of my being I believed that my life would never be any different, that people like me weren’t destined to have money or a life without struggle, life was always going to be hard. I also felt a sense of pride for my roots, as we all do, a pride beset with inner strength to rise above the deprivation, but a sense of pride that also reinforced my deeply rooted poverty mindset. Throughout my family’s history there was inherent hardship, it was both a physical and a tangible, very real existence, you could feel and touch the poverty, it was a visible essence, and a heartfelt, destructive entity driving home the essence of a life of lack and scarcity for decades and even centuries for some of the branches of my family’s past. The very nature of such a life provides the consistent thought structure to remaining stuck in a poverty trap, and my family was no different to millions of others all around the world, caught in the misery and drudgery of not having enough.
Now, instead, I choose to feel blessed and thankful for my life, for the empathy and compassion my life and its struggles have taught me, blessed for all the opportunities to love and be loved I experience everyday, for my wonderful and caring children and all my beautiful creative and talented grandchildren, and all my loving and supportive extended family and friends. I am thankful for all the little things in life that we so often take for granted and some things that maybe we don’t even think about ever being thankful for, like the sight of the sky as I wake up in the morning, and the country air that I breathe each day, the sound of a baby in the distance, the isolated rose on my somewhat barren bush in my garden, the sound of my children running up the stairs, the smell of fresh mint and freshly brewed coffee and the smell of freshly baked bread. I am thankful too, for memories locked deep in my heart of beautiful people that have graced my life and taught me so much as they too walked their own path, the smiles and wise words of my wonderful grandmother, and the gentle hand of my maternal grandfather, the heroic exploits of my paternal grandfather and special moments too many to mention but that all make me the purposeful woman I am today, and now instead of fear and complaints when I find a solitary penny in my purse rather than a bunch of notes, I am thankful for the beginnings of my savings towards my next pound and for all the good things I already have in my life.
I see positive affirmations and gratitude as the key, the key to my well-being and the key to my abundant perspective because you see I am surrounded by an abundance of love, an abundance of life, an abundance of beautiful country air and I could go on and on.. but instead I’ll tell you – “I don’t focus on what I don’t have, I focus on everything that is good in my life and boy oh boy do I feel empowered and special.”
Maybe you’ve have similar ideas or If you’ve never tried using positive affirmations before, why not give them a try and see what effect they have on your life and come back to my blog and tell us what you experienced, I’d love to know.
Until Next Time