Building our self-confidence becomes an attitude, when we move forward with a series of small steps… It’s an amalgam of individual small changes that when put together create a new perspective, a new view of yourself, your life and the world – Your World.
Taking the first steps can be a challenge, but what’s important is that you begin to tell yourself that you are confident – Speaking kindly to yourself in a pro-active way can be the springboard to building the confidence level you wish to have. Ask yourself how you want to feel and how you want to be seen in the world, – smart, elegant, beautiful, confident, happy, friendly, sophisticated…?
That is your starting point, tell yourself that you are smart, elegant, beautiful, confident, happy, friendly, sophisticated…and whatever others words you choose to describe how you want to feel and to be seen. Say them aloud, “I Am Confident, I Am Smart, I Am Elegant, and so on, write them down, print them off and place them in frames if you like, but make them a part of your life, because now they are. These are your personal power words, use them everyday – This is your first step to building your self-confidence.
How you feel inside, in your heart is what is reflected to you, and to the outside world. When we feel good about ourselves, we stand taller, straighter, we smile more, without even thinking about it, our thoughts are kinder, we notice good things about ourselves, not out of vanity but from a view of self-care and self-love.
Feeling confident is to feel good – Feeling good in your body and about your body, recognising what you love about yourself, and accepting everything about you. Its about loving who you are, and who you want to be. Taking care of how we look, plays a big part in building our confidence, and is part of how we present ourselves to the world, how we want to be seen.
“When you look good you feel good. Confidence with what you’re wearing is very important. if you feel good, you will always perform your best without worrying about anything else,” Maria Sharapova.
Maria’s words are so true, when we feel good we shine, our confidence grows, and feel better and happier about ourselves and our lives. As much as we need to be comfortable in our bodies, we need to be and feel comfortable in our clothes. Make your wardrobe part of your confidence tool kit. Choose colours that you love, and fabrics that you feel good in. Wear clothes that harmonise with how you want to feel, remember your power words. Use clothes to help you grow your confidence.
“Clothes can transform your mood and your confidence,” Alice Temperley
Its good sometimes to have a pyjama day, its an easy and fun way to relax, and give yourself some time, and can very easily become part of your self-care routine… A once a month treat, or for a special Saturday, or school holiday day, during the Autumn or Winter months.
With confidence, we innately care about ourselves in many ways. We care how we think, and how we feel on a day to day basis, as women we want to feeling good about the way we look, and the way we feel in different situations, and how we respond to things that happen. Giving ourselves some much deserved Me time, and relaxation time, time with friends, and with our families is all part of our self-care routine. Enjoying time with our children, not out of an obligation as a Mother, but out of love for ourselves as much as our love for our children, sharing in their fun and happy moments, and experiencing everyday things together is how we grow, how we can build confidence in our day to day tasks, in our mothering, and in ourselves.
Take Care ‘Till Next Time, Sending you Love
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